Are Your Leadership Traits Inspiring Loyalty
Rich Baron • September 21, 2023
People simply want to feel heard and understood.
Leaders don’t always realize it, but the way they interact with their employees can often make or break their team’s work experience. One study showed that 57% of employees quit their jobs because of their bosses, with an additional 32% seriously considering a job change to get away from an unruly manager. The data also shows that employees are more productive when they have positive, fair relationships with their bosses — so even if that 32% can’t be bothered to put in the effort to find another job, you can bet they aren’t giving it their all during the workweek — and likely, that reality stems from an uninspiring leader who lacks the leadership traits to bring their employees along for the journey.
Though your leaders are likely paying close attention to the results you produce, your employees are paying attention to something else entirely — the way you treat them and make them feel. There are certain leadership traits that can inspire loyalty amongst your team members simply because it makes them feel as though they are trusted and valued members of the team.
The following are some examples of how various leadership traits can inspire loyalty in not only your employees, but for those other people in your lives.
Empathy
Though it may be easy to forget, nobody starts their career in a top leadership position. At one point, we were all just starting out, eager to prove ourselves and climb up the corporate ladder. Think back to when you were beginning your career, or perhaps a few years into a job you were excited about. How did you feel when you went to work? How much of that stemmed from having a good leader? Or perhaps from a leader that was not so good.
Leaders have a great deal of control over the way their employees feel from day to day. You can be the reason they excel with the company or the reason they are giving their two weeks’ notice. A great way to ensure you stay in touch with your employees is by practicing the leadership trait of empathy — put yourself in their shoes and act accordingly.
If you have a stressed-out account lead who happens to be working on the company’s three most difficult accounts, take the time to talk with them about it, see how they are feeling, and come up with an arrangement that will make their lives easier. If you’ve heard repeated grumbling from your team about an office policy that has become a hassle, hear them out, empathize with their feelings, and come up with a solution. More often than not, people simply want to feel heard and understood. Listen, empathize, and take that listening a step further by solving your employees’ problems.
Honesty
There is little that can do more damage to your reputation as a leader than dishonesty. Earning your employees’ trust is a hard-fought battle as it is — destroying that trust with a lie or by taking credit where it isn’t deserved can set you on a path with little hope for return.
Employees often ask difficult questions, and while it may be easy to brush them off or tell a white lie at the moment to save face, being honest will gain you far more respect, and you may be surprised to find that your employees have come armed with solutions for the problems they’ve brought to your attention.
Honesty as a leadership trait goes beyond answering tough questions with candor—it means admitting when you’ve made a mistake, too. Though it’s never easy to do, admitting to a mistake and demonstrating honesty and accountability will build your reputation as an honest leader and help your employees realize they can be honest with you when they’ve made mistakes of their own.
Ask yourself these tough questions, "Do my employees trust me," and, "Do I trust my employees." The default setting in most organizations is a lack of trust. However, making the decision to be vulnerable, and truly answering those questions, is a secret weapon that the senior leadership team has that can be used to heighten the trust in their organizations.
Open Communication
Your employees know more about what goes on at your organization than you may ever realize. You get to decide how they receive difficult or confusing messages: directly from you, or from water cooler conversations. Beyond the bigger conversations, effective communication can greatly impact productivity — the clearer you are about your expectations and goals for the organization or your individual team, the more likely your employees are to rise to the occasion.
Positive Mindsets
Positivity doesn’t always refer to simply smiling and looking cheerful, positivity is more about one’s overall perspective on life and their tendency to focus on all that is good in life.
A great definition of a positive mindset comes from Kendra Cherry at Very Well Mind:
"Positive thinking actually means approaching life’s challenges with a positive outlook. It does not necessarily mean avoiding or ignoring the bad things; instead, it involves making the most of the potentially bad situations, trying to see the best in other people, and viewing yourself and your abilities in a positive light.”
Having a positive mindset means making positive thinking a habit, continually searching for the best not only in ourselves but those around us. In addition, having a positive mindset is often associated with the key to our success. Great leaders truly understand this and are continually aware of their own "behavioral footprint" and understand how that impacts those around them. When we are in touch with our own behavioral footprint, we have a much better chance of making it a positive one. Our own positive mindset and behaviors can lift people up, make work more efficient, or solve problems. The greatest leaders are those who understand how much their actions, great or small, actually affect those around them.
A Willingness to Coach
Using your knowledge to help your employees learn and grow within their roles and the organization is one of the most surefire ways to inspire loyalty amongst your team members. If a great opportunity arises it isn’t particularly difficult to leave a leader that doesn’t invest any time or energy into their people, but it is much more difficult to leave someone who puts genuine effort into helping their employees learn and grow. Use the expertise you have earned throughout your career to help those you work with, whether it relates to time management, navigating organizational relationships, or working on complex clients or projects.
The Vulnerability Challenge
If you find yourself needing to improve on these traits, Executive coaching is the sturdy bridge that connects individual leadership effectiveness with outstanding organizational performance. However, it takes vulnerability. Making the decision to be vulnerable is difficult and actually, disrupting your life to make changes is even harder. So often as a coach, I hear the excuse that opening up will show my weaknesses, or I do not have the time for this. I agree, that it is not easy; however, vulnerability is a necessary component of growth.
Always remember that the decision to be vulnerable does not mean you are a weak leader. It takes a great deal of courage in choosing to be vulnerable. The vulnerability decision is the key to unlocking the potential to become a great leader. It will open doors to opportunities that were never thought possible for both yourself and your organization. Truly great leaders are fully aware of their strengths and gaps and as a result, are humble in their approach to leading.
Where Do You Want To Be
And finally, take note that nothing comes from nothing, it takes effort to accept the challenge to do better, be better, and have better outcomes. And for those who feel they do not have time, remember that time does not care if you are engaged in growing yourself or not. Time will pass you by regardless. The difference is that you must know where you personally want to be in 6 months or a year from now. You can be right where you are at now, or on a journey to personal development and leadership growth. The choice is yours.
If you want to find out how executive coaching can help you improve your leadership traits, Reach out to me here.
About the Author
Rich Baron is the Director of Culture Transformation and Training and a Master Certified Intelligent Leadership Executive Coach at John Mattone Global. With a wealth of expertise spanning over 25 years, he has excelled in various realms such as cultural transformation, operational leadership, executive positions, and coaching individuals from emerging leaders to CEOs. Rich hosts "Mainline Executive Coaching ACT," a podcast acknowledged by Feedspot in 2023 as the foremost Executive Coaching Podcast worldwide. This recognition is based on evaluating numerous podcasts on the internet, taking into account factors such as web traffic, social media followers, and timeliness. The podcast enjoys a substantial following in more than 70 countries and 600 cities across the globe.

The First World War, occurring from 1914 to 1918, brought unprecedented destruction and violence. The impact of the First World War, in particular, forever transformed the nature of war. This conflict witnessed the deliberate targeting of civilians, the widespread use of chemical weapons, and the introduction of mechanized warfare on a large scale. The death toll reached a staggering 22 million people, with some accounts putting the toll closer to 37 million. However, amidst the chaos and brutality of the First World War, a brief and remarkable moment of peace unfolded on Christmas Day in 1914. It Will Be Over by Christmas Many of the 60 million soldiers sent to fight in the First World War were told that the war would be over by Christmas—a promise that turned out to be yet another falsehood in a conflict plagued with deception and misinformation. After war was declared in July 1914, it became clear by Christmas of that year that there was no end in sight. The Western Front was dotted with trenches, where millions of soldiers were packed together, enduring freezing conditions. Many of these soldiers were astonishingly close to their enemies, with the British and German trenches sometimes separated by a mere 30 meters. According to Daniel Coyle in his best-selling book “The Culture Code”, soldiers on both sides, because of proximity to each other, started noticing shared patterns of behavior and routines of cooking, re-supply, and troop rotations. Deepening the connection was the realization that both sides were enduring the same terror and stress of harsh conditions. On the late hours of Christmas Eve, German troops started opening gifts that they had received from home, including Christmas trees adorned with candles. The soldiers lit their lanterns and placed them along the edges of their trenches, creating a warm and festive atmosphere. As the candles flickered, the sound of carol singing resonated through the air. A Personal Account Bruce Bairnsfather, a British machine gunner who would later become a well-known cartoonist, vividly described the scene in his memoirs. Like his fellow infantrymen from the 1st Battalion of the Royal Warwickshire Regiment, Bairnsfather spent Christmas Eve shivering in the muddy trenches, desperately trying to keep warm. Having fought against the Germans for the past few months, he found himself in the Bois de Ploegsteert region of Belgium. In this unforgiving environment, Bairnsfather, cramped in a trench only three feet deep and three feet wide, faced constant sleeplessness and fear. His days and nights were filled with the repetitive cycle of anxiety, surviving on stale biscuits and cigarettes too damp to light. At about 10 p.m., Bairnsfather noticed a noise. “I listened,” he recalled. The Germans were singing carols, as it was Christmas Eve. The British soldiers in the trenches joined in by singing back. Amid this peaceful moment, a surprising occurrence unfolded. Bairnsfather and his comrades heard a bewildered shouting from the German side, causing them to pause and listen intently. The voice belonged to an enemy soldier who spoke English with a distinct German accent, calling out, "Come over here." In a remarkable turn of events, the British and French troops, inspired by the Germans, also participated in the Christmas truce. Fear and suspicion were set aside as soldiers began to exchange greetings and well-wishes between the trenches. Offers for a temporary ceasefire were communicated and accepted. With the dawn of Christmas morning, soldiers cautiously stepped out into no man's land. They greeted one another and engaged in an awe-inspiring display of humanity. Messages and gifts were shared as soldiers from opposing sides momentarily set aside their enmity. In some areas, caps and jackets were repurposed as goalposts, leading to impromptu and joyful football matches. It is even said that the Germans emerged victorious in one of these games with a final score of 3-2. Another British soldier, named John Ferguson, recalled it this way: “Here we were laughing and chatting to men whom only a few hours before we were trying to kill!” The temporary cessation of fighting continued in certain areas until the arrival of the New Year, but ultimately, the pause proved to be brief and the peace was short-lived. Although there were several other instances of similar truces during the war, none were as widespread or significant as the Christmas truce of 1914. Disapproval from Senior Leaders As expected, certain high-ranking officers on both sides viewed the Christmas Truce with disapproval. They issued orders explicitly forbidding any association with the enemy and warned of potential punishments for those who disobeyed, even execution for cowardice by firing squad for those who attempted to start another truce. However, the soldiers, who were already weary from the war (unaware of the years of continued fighting ahead), chose to take matters into their own hands. They defied the orders and acted independently to establish moments of peace, albeit temporary, amidst the turmoil of war. In an alternate account, it is reported that a German soldier named Adolf Hitler reprimanded his comrades during the Christmas Truce, expressing his disapproval by stating, "Such a thing should not happen in wartime. Have you no German sense of honor left?" Hitler, who was 25 years old at the time, conveyed his disdain for the temporary ceasefire. What Can We Learn as Leaders If enemies on the battle lines can create a culture of safety, respect, and belonging even during war, it suggests that similar conditions can be replicated within organizations. And indeed, there are ways to achieve this. According to Coyle, organizations that foster a strong sense of belonging can address the following questions to ensure a positive response from employees: 1. Are we connected? - Encourage open communication and collaboration among team members. - Foster a sense of unity and shared purpose. 2. Do we share a future? - Clearly, and often, communicate the organization's vision, mission, and goals. - Involve employees in decision-making processes to create a sense of ownership and shared commitment. 3. Are we safe? - Promote a culture of psychological safety where employees completely trust that the organization is a safe place to give 100% while expressing their opinions and taking risks. - Establish policies and practices that prioritize employee well-being and physical safety. To ensure a resounding "YES" to these questions, it is crucial to clearly and consistently communicate the organization's vision, mission, and goals. This can be achieved by: Communicate the purpose: An effective approach to communicate your organization's purpose is by using concise messaging throughout. Avoid using overly complex statements that potential employees may struggle to understand or feel apprehensive about living up to. Articulating the vision: Communicate the long-term aspirations and purpose of the organization. This overarching vision should inspire and provide a sense of direction for all employees. And that they are a crucial part of achieving the vision. Define the mission: Clearly define the organization's mission statement, which outlines its core purpose, main activities, and the value it delivers to its stakeholders. Regularly reinforce this mission to remind employees of the organization's primary focus. My Key Takeaways The Christmas Truce offers valuable lessons about leadership and culture that can be applied in various contexts. Although this event took place over 100 years ago, the lessons we must learn from those brave soldiers are still relevant today. So here are a few of my thoughts and key takeaways: 1. Leaders Set the Tone: The temporary ceasefire during the Christmas Truce was driven by individual soldiers who took the initiative to establish peace. This highlights the importance of leaders setting the right tone and creating an environment that encourages positive actions and behaviors. 2. Humanize the "Enemy": The soldiers involved in the truce showed empathy and compassion towards their supposed enemies. This serves as a powerful reminder that seeing the humanity in others, even in challenging circumstances, can foster understanding and connection. 3. Facilitate Connection and Communication: The Christmas Truce exemplified the power of connection and communication across divides. Leaders should create opportunities for open dialogue, collaboration, and relationship building, fostering a sense of community and common purpose. 4. Encourage Empathy and Respect: The truce demonstrated the significance of empathy and respect in promoting peaceful interactions. Leaders can cultivate these qualities by emphasizing the importance of understanding different perspectives and treating others with dignity and respect. 5. Boldly Challenge Norms: The soldiers who participated in the truce defied the established orders and norms, highlighting the potential for positive change when individuals challenge the status quo. Leaders should encourage everyone in their organizations to think differently and think big. Wrapping Up Even in today's world, the lessons from the Christmas Truce of 1914 remain pertinent. Individuals, regardless of their political beliefs and ideologies, will unite with their families to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, who symbolizes peace and salvation. It is a day when we commit ourselves to acts of generosity and spreading kindness to those around us. Afterward, instead of going back to our organizational trenches and shooting at each other verbally from within our siloed walls, we should stay in the “no man’s land” of compromise and conciliation and continue to find solutions to common problems. Like the soldiers in the Christmas Truce, we should make the spirit of goodwill at Christmas last more than one day. By consistently prioritizing and nurturing these elements year-round, organizations can create a culture that fosters a strong sense of belonging, ultimately leading to increased engagement, productivity, and overall organizational success. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. Thank you for your continued support and I wish you all the best for the coming new year. About the Author Rich Baron is the Chief Operating Officer and Director of Global Coaching Projects at John Mattone Global (JMG) and a Master Certified Intelligent Leadership® Executive Coach. He partners with C-level leaders and high-potential executives around the world to strengthen trust, elevate culture, and drive sustainable transformation. Rich leads large-scale coaching and cultural initiatives across multiple regions and industries, and serves as a strategic bridge between executive teams, HR, and global coaching networks. He is also the co-host of the Mainline Executive Coaching ACT podcast, recognized as one of the top executive coaching podcasts globally, where he explores the real-world challenges and opportunities facing today’s leaders. Through his work, Rich is dedicated to CHANGING THE WORLD One Leader, One Organization at a Time® by helping leaders move beyond performance and build the inner architecture required to become world-class executives.



